As a recent University graduate, it has been many years since High School, yet I return to the same city and have begun hanging out with the same people from my youth: including ex-girlfriends. I personally have two situation on my hands. In high school I had two long relationships, each lasting two years. I have been in touch with both of these ex-loves. One of them has been texting me and pursuing a friendship without much productivity, and I have been actively calling the other without much productivity. They were both pretty destructive relationships as they burnt out and both involved an exchange of hard feelings at the time of dissolution. However, some time has past, everyone has grown up a bit and realized the bilateral causes and faults of the relationship’s failure.
And so now we can all be friends and everything will be fine, right????
Perhaps I’m a bit apprehensive to situations that have caused previous pain, but I’m a bit skeptical of friendship in this context.
I suppose the biggest question I ponder on is if ex-lovers can be just friends. Do the sentiments of love forever remain or do they eventually wash away? Maybe we sometimes pursue friendship with former significant others in an attempt to grab onto some comfortable feeling of the past for which you long in the present?
I’m a bit split myself, and don’t have enough past experience to make a proper judgement. Happy hour Craig says to go for it, but 8:30am, file clerk Craig says its a counterproductive and unhealthy decision. I was curious to hear about someone else’s experience in this kind of situation. Can you be friends with your ex-lovers or is constructing this friendship a subconscious desire for the thing of the past?
